Okay I decided to write this post because I’ve had enough of people complaining to me about their ‘boring’, ‘dull’ and ‘lifeless’ lives. Too many people are going on about how they hate their job, or how they live in a boring place which they don’t like, or how they’re not happy with their relationship or friendships. This really gets to me because all these people have the same problem; the wrong attitude towards life.
Let me just be the first to say, I can be a very moody and grumpy, and very angry person at times! I am writing this post with a positive mind, but that’s not to say I am happy 24/7 all smiles and cheer! I am far from it!! But, I am human and no one can be happy every second, and I also believe it takes the bad times to make us appreciate the good times more. I have also learnt that it’s okay to be in a bad mood, as long as it’s temporary and you don’t get stuck in this rut.
I am told countless times every week that ‘well it’s okay for you, you’ve got it cushty because you live in sunny Portugal, and you’re living the dream’. And yes, they are right in that I’m living the dream, my dream, which I wanted for years, and now I am lucky enough to be living it, but why? Because I decided that’s what I wanted and went after it. “If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.” This is a famous quote by Nora Roberts and it could not be truer.
So I want to tell you, lecture you, rant to you, explain to you and beg to you, why NOW is the time to change your life, get out of them old habits and create new paths and opportunities which will improve every aspect of your life.
Let’s face it; you’re not going to get any younger; whether your 19, 31, or 47, now is the time! Why keep waiting, why keep putting it off, why not jump up and crack on with what you’ve always dreamed of?
Time is the single, most valuable commodity in human history. We all get the same 24 hours in a day, but some are just better at spending their time than others. We all have a friends or at least know someone who seems to be doing so much more, and making so much more of their life than you, but the truth is, they just realised this before you.
There will always be an opportunity to earn money, but there won’t always be time to do what you’ve always wanted. If you want to travel, buy a ticket and go! If you want to learn another language, book into a class and start learning! I can’t stress enough the (very well known fact) that tomorrow is promised to no one! You need to make the most of the time you have, and the time you are fit, healthy and able! Time really flies!
Realise that money isn’t everything and money absolutely does not mean happiness. It is often the poorest people who are happiest, because they don’t expect anything, and they are grateful for everything. It’s being with people, choosing who you want to be and doing things for others which makes us happy, not about what we have.
Learn to be grateful, for everything. I mean everything. Every day, you wake up and some people don’t. You’ve been blessed with another day of living. You have your sight, your hearing, the ability to walk, to drive, freedom and rights to speak up. Don’t take this for granted. There are wars going on, in which people are dying, and they’re fighting for liberties you already have. Be grateful for having a family that love for you and care for you, and friends who make you laugh and encourage you. Be grateful for running water, an education and a home.
Worry and Fear
Don’t stress too much about university, or money, or missing people, or what could go wrong. It’s the classic cliché of everyone growing old and regretting the things they didn’t do, places they didn’t go and things they didn’t say. Learn through other peoples mistakes, and live your life now! I strongly recommend writing a Bucket List, but at least have some kind of plan, with goals and targets to reach!
Always think about things like this; what’s the worst that can happen? So you quit a job which you’ve been in for years, and can’t stand, and go for something new you think you’ll love, but say it doesn’t go quite to plan and you’re not enjoying the new one. You didn’t make a mistake by leaving your original job! If the new one is so bad, okay, leave that too, but you did what you wanted and you’ve gained some experience! You can then look for something else to move onto, and if you’re really desperate you can ask for your old job back. The important thing is you gave it a go.
If you want to move out of town, if things go wrong, it’s not the end of the world! You can go back to parents or crash with friends temporarily until you sort yourself out. You may have lost a little money and time, but be happy with yourself that you had the guts to do what you wanted. Remember, you will never lose, you’ll either win or you’ll learn!
Fear of Regrets
Fill your life with great adventures, achievements, happiness and satisfaction; it will inspire other people and will be the best thing you’ve ever done! Below is one of my favourite quotes, and some true words to live by.
‘I would rather have a life of ‘oh wells’ then a life of ‘what ifs’.
At the end of the day, (and sorry for the very morbid thought) we are all going to die eventually. So when you’re on your death bed, you are not going to be worried about how much money you have in the bank or how fancy your big house and sports car are. You will be thinking of the memories you made spent with the people who mean most to you, the adventures you shared, and the smiles and laughter you had together. You also won’t be thinking of the silly things you did which you now regret, but you probably will be thinking of all the times you said ‘no’ when you wished you’d said ‘yes’, the times you were too afraid to go after what you really wanted, the things you regret not doing. Like I said before, unfortunately for a lot of people, it’s only when we lose our health do we realise just how short life really is, and you don’t want to spend your last time on earth dwelling on regrets.
So please, just do this, and not for anyone else but for yourself. Only good will come of it and I promise you will be thankful for it; you’ll be happier and learn to live life how you want, and not just plod through because you have to. You will not regret this, and the moment you decide to actually start living, you will find a whole new life out there.